Love and Rejection
This is the deepest pain the ego can feel. When this happens and unfortunately one day it happens, the feeling of losing is brutal. The world opens under our feet and nothing else matters or is worthy in life. All our hopes of loving and being loved vanish. A deep depression is the result of the losing feeling if this don´t be contained on time. Eyes lose the glow and the world becomes gray.
This process can take years to be extinguished, and it can totally destroy a person´s life. The person can become bitter and resentful. At one step to desperation and thoughtless acts. How many suicides can come from here?
Rejection can affect us this way because we think that we don´t have any value. It doesn´t come to our mind that this is not our problem; it´s a problem of someone else. Who is rejecting is the other.
When we don´t have the knowledge and the control of our own production of neurotransmitters and hormones, this feeling of rejection can be solved in some hours or days. All the suffering has a biochemical base. It´s a two way road. It is posible to create and destroy. Therefore, we can treat the situation in a rational way.
What should we do in a situation like that?
The common sense tells us to also reject and maybe hate the other person. It´s a logical counter-attack. In this case, the logic does not work.
What we should do is to continue loving, giving love like we´ve always done.
It doesn´t matter what the other does, we should always continue loving. And it´s not an impersonal love. It is with the same love we used to feel. Actually, there must not have any interruption of this feeling. Independent of what the other person does. Love can´t never cease. This way, the pain can´t be installed and we´ll keep on being happy.
This may seem utopian and impossible to those who read rapidly. They may think that this doesn´t exist. That is theory and romantism – it is not.
This is absolutely real and possible. When we reach a level of fusion with the Creator, this begins to be normal. Besides, it couldn’t be any other way. When we become love, we start loving, only. That can not be different. It´s a continuous happiness. We love independent of the circunstances. Even rejected, we keep on loving the other.
We´ll continue to treat well, comunicating with each other, loving as alwayas, although we can´t express in its total, the love we feel. Because this is a problem created by the other.
This is the only solution that exists. The only solution that works. The only attitude that we can have to maintain our happiness.
To continue loving without ceasing, because love is everything in life.