In affective relationships there is a dynamic that must be observed at the beginning, so that it can succeed.
The uncertainty principle, defined by Heisenberg, Physics Nobel, says that the particle has position and momentum. And that is not possible to measure both things at the same time. Or you know one thing or other.
The same thing happens when two people get interested to each other and begin a relationship. Considering just the position (growth stage), it is possible for a while that the relationship exists, but considering the momentum (speed of growth), we realize that during a determinate time, the relationship will become not viable.
Everything in the universe is dynamic. The Theory of Chaos shows it clearly.to forget about this is to get into trouble. In all areas.
At a certain moment of a person´s life, everything can be stable. You have a good professional situation, health, money, education, etc. everything is fine. You are a person with a regular behavior, inside the society, with good education, etc.
Other person, on the contrary, has been growing. It doesn´t matter if he/she has came from a lower level with all the material, educational, etc, issues to develop. This person has a greater momentum than the other. His/ her dynamic of growth in all areas or in just one is much bigger than the first.
At a moment of life they´ll meet. One is stable and the other is rising up. It is evident that for a while, and this depends on the position of one, and the momentum of other, and the relationship can last – that is, a relationship can happen.
What a relationship will be described in another blog.
But since the moment of both is different, they will undoubtedly be apart, as time goes by. After a while, there is not a complementary between both. If someday it has existed.
The frequency between both is already so different, that there is not statics anymore. When we syntonize a radio dial, as we get close to the broadcast frequency of that radio, we start listening a noise.
It is the statics. It is close. When we syntonize on the exact frequency, the sound is clear. If we get some distance, the statics appears again. Inside a frequency band, there is still a communication between two people, but since the momentum is different, sooner or later, there is no contact between both.
It is very important to realize that when a romance is beginning. And it is very important not to “sell something if you won´t deliver it”. That is, to pretend you like the same things the other likes the same books, movies, religion, entertainment, etc.
In this case, a position is being pretended, because the persons pretends that he/she has already realized that the other´s momentum is much bigger. Because he/she cannot reach it, he/she pretends to be in the other´s position and that he/she cannot follow his/her momentum. This attitude ends the relationship in a very short time.
When the position is still real, it can last a while, but when this does not happen, in a few days together, it is noticed. A couple was engaged for a long time. Apparently it was everything fine with them. They decided to travel and they stayed 8 days in the same hotel room. The engagement was over.
So, it is necessary that a realistic evaluation be done, in the position and momentum of both people, so there can be a minimum possibility of success in the relationship.
To make a realist evaluation, it is necessary think and talk. A lot of time to evaluate. This is not easy when there is passion, but it is necessary.
And we are talking about a relationship where there is passion, and not only social, economic, and family interests.
Of course the person who doesn´t have a momentum with the other, can decide to grow and compensate the damages. But the person that is already at this position is because his/her comfort zone is big. And you know the comfort zone is the thing that human being most like.
Who has a momentum, never stops growing. It is part of his nature or she /has understood that the universe starts to be a part of the person. It is already inside its personality. So it is easy to grow.
If this dynamic is understood and evaluated, a lot of hurt will be avoided and a lot of joy will exist in relationships. And this planet will only be happy when the relationships also be.